THE GOOD WIFE’S GUIDE
EMBRACING YOUR ROLE AS A HELP MEET
By: Darlene Schacht
Published January 13, 2012
In The Good Wife’s Guide author Darlene Schacht encourages women to joyfully serve their families. In doing so she offers reasons for achieving a well-managed home backed by scripture and gleaned from experience. As well she provides readers with detailed cleaning and organizing schedules for practical application.
The Good Wife’s Guide encourages women to make faith and family their first priorities from a place of sacrificial love. It reminds women that they were created with a specific purpose in mind, which is that of being a help meet. In supporting our husbands and living in unity we reflect God’s blueprint for marriage.
I became interested in the book because the idea of the book came about because of an article the author came across titled “The Good Wife’s Guide” supposedly published in 1955 by Housekeeping Monthly. I had seen that same article because my husband brought it home and thought I should read through it. Ha! Anyway, we had a good laugh over it. Then I saw this book and I was curious about what Schacht was going to say about the wife’s role in the home and the Biblical piece to it as well.
We have all heard of the Proverbs 31 women and how it seems impossible to achieve at that level. Then in Ephesians 5:22-24, we are told, “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his
body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also
wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” This is where a lot of women stop reading and get upset. I agree, those are some serious expectations for us, but if you go on reading, you will find that God asks husbands to give of themselves as Christ gave of himself to the Church. The husbands have a much larger responsibility for loving, caring, and sacrificing for us in the same way Christ did all that for the church. So, if my husband is going to love me like that, I will be happy to love him back by serving and caring for him.
Schacht goes into all this in more in her ebook. She does talk about how to keep your home and children presentable for your husband. She suggests removing the stress of the day and having a relaxed atmosphere for when your husband comes home from work. As much as this may sound absurd to some of you, I have found it to be very helpful. When supper is ready and kids are not running crazy around the house, we have such a lovely meal and conversation. Everyone is in a good mood. But, if I am stressed and lay it all on him as soon as he walks in the door and the kids are loud and running around, supper and the rest of the evening are guaranteed to be stressful. I am fortunate that I have a husband who is my “help meet” as well. If I am gone in the evening, he will do the dishes, help the kids with homework, etc. I don’t have to worry about the list of things that I still need to do. If he sees it needs to be done, he does it. That is the kind of marriage I think everyone should have and what God expected for us. There are times when we need to give and when we need to take. God wants us to serve and care for our spouses as well as bring out the best in each other and this book reminded me of that.
Schacht closes out her book with chapters related to housekeeping. She offers schedules and tips for keeping your home in tip top shape. I appreciated her clear steps and ways to stay ahead of the mess.
Overall, I really liked this book. It helped me see my relationship with my husband in a new light and even though I am not putting all of her suggestions into practice, quite a few have worked for me.